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Are you there for me?Do I matter to you?Will you come to me when I call?Will you be there when I reach out to you?
These are the hidden cries of vulnerability that underlie the distress experienced in most adult love relationships. They often come in the form of an angry protest such as, "Why didn't you complete the list on the refrigerator? Or, as in a withdrawn defeat, "I give up, since I can never please my partner."
As Dr. Susan Johnson, author of Hold Me Tight, and the developer of Emotionally Focused Couple's Therapy (EFT) says, "Nothing can bring two enemies together than a common enemy!" You can discover the "negative pattern" in your relationship and name it the enemy and then join with your partner to fight against the negative cycle that takes over your relationship...only to leave you both alone and hurting.
The empirically validated EFT has shown that 7 out of 10 couples transform their dysfunctional pattern and 9 out of 10 couples significantly improve. This is possible due to the highly experiential nature of the EFT therapy process which is designed to access and utilize emotions to affect change.
The brain remains open to being reshaped by experience throughout our entire lives — not just in early childhood. Mindful, emotionally corrective experiences are at the heart of this change, and are a cornerstone of EFT.
Our early attachments shape the quality of our adult relationships and our ability to parent. Through mindfulness and mind-body tools, we can make sense of our past and expand our capacity to respond — rather than react — to the people we love most.
With warmth and compassion, Aida works with couples, individuals, and parents using an attachment perspective and experiential mind-body interventions. When our bonds with loved ones become more secure, we become more resilient to stress, better able to balance our emotions, and more capable of nurturing the relationships that matter most.